Believing Mirrors

When was the last time you heard:
“Wow you are awesome!”
“That’s a great idea you have. I support you all the way!”
“You’ll be terrific at that job…Go for it!”

WHAT? You’ve never heard those things. Instead, you’ve heard:
“What a crazy idea! That will never work!”
“You can’t support a family with that job!”
“You can’t possibly compete with others doing that. Stick to what you know.”

We all need believing mirrors(*), folks who support us, who want us to be happy, who believe we can accomplish anything we set our mind to. As children IF we are fortunate, we do hear messages like “Way to go!!” As adults many of us believe that children benefit from praise and encouragement….So we don’t hold back, we don’t hesitate, and we enjoy watching the little ones around us grow and succeed, become competent and self-confident young adults.

Unfortunately, there comes a point when a few things seem to change:

– Parents begin to instill “reality” in children with statements like “That’s unrealistic, you’ll need an education to support yourself.” Or “Haven’t you ever heard of the starving artist? You should change your major to business.”

– We come to believe that adults “shouldn’t need” that kind of encouragement any longer so we stop giving it and we stop receiving it.

– As adults around other adults, we stop encouraging each other, fearing that another’s success might negatively impact ours.

What happens to creative growth, freedom of expression, and pure joy in living when ideas, plans and dreams are not nurtured, not given support? They die. And with them, a part of the dreamer goes underground, and dies as well. The dreamer eventually stops dreaming, starts conforming, often experiences depression. Another life is spent “Keeping up with the Jones instead of following the creative version of “Be all that you can be!”

Human beings are amazing and creative creatures. Without the human mind and its dreams and visions, the Wright Brothers wouldn’t have created the flying machine nor Edison the light bulb. And without over 6000 failed attempts and the unwillingness to hear “Give up, it’s hopeless”, Edison wouldn’t have discovered the carbon filament to make the lightbulb possible.

How do we learn to believe in ourselves? How do we reconnect with our inner, creative child? How do we find the courage to move beyond the daily routine, and begin to dabble in those activities which nurture us, feed our spirit and grow our talents?

Begin by reviewing your relationships. Which people routinely respond negatively to your expressions of creativity, your ideas, your dreams.

* Julia Cameron in The Artist’s Way defines the term “believing mirror” as “a friend to your creative self, one who believes in you and your creativity.”

Are you ready to move away from the “unbelievers” in your life and surround yourself with “believing mirrors?” Are you ready to live the life of your dreams?

Build a mental boundary around that special inner sanctuary, and do not open its doors to naysayers. (Source: Jeanne Loehnis, spiritual singer and songwriter)

One thought on “Believing Mirrors

  1. Beautiful post~

    Powerful and so very true. Sadly and more often than not, it’s the naysayers who will have our ear because fear constantly takes positive bits of information and twists it into negative energy. In as much as we try to put a positive spin on our efforts, fear employs doubt to digest praise and purges what’s left of a positive outcome. It’s appetite is insatiable. By the time the slightest bit of positivity reaches our soul it is quickly forgotten or is not enough to allow us to feed our self esteem. We foolishly begin to reason with fear in order to steer clear of failure and/or embarrassment and hesitate to continue moving toward our goal.

    What needs to be done is clearly stated above. Overwhelm fear with perpetual positivity which can be accomplished by surrounding yourself with believing mirrors~

    Those who choose to…shall prevail!

    The only thing we have to fear is fear itself- FDR

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